Autistic Future

Inspiration Porn and Achievement

Despite woe­ful­ly inad­e­quate sup­ports for those who need them, dis­crim­i­na­tion, low expec­ta­tions, and oth­er atti­tu­di­nal bar­ri­ers, grow­ing num­bers of Autis­tic peo­ple are becom­ing con­ven­tion­al­ly suc­cess­ful. This can take many forms, includ­ing edu­ca­tion­al achieve­ment, finan­cial suc­cess, build­ing a val­ued and valu­able career, attain­ing elect­ed office, home own­er­ship, and tak­ing on respect­ed reli­gious and com­mu­ni­ty roles. For many Autis­tic adults, it hap­pens qui­et­ly. Some­times, how­ev­er, the neu­rotyp­i­cal world takes notice. Efforts of many dis­abil­i­ty com­mu­ni­ties to push back against inspi­ra­tion porn and pro­mote media nar­ra­tives that rec­og­nize and acknowl­edge the full human­i­ty of dis­abled peo­ple have helped but not com­plete­ly fixed the sit­u­a­tion. Although the prob­lem is unlike­ly to com­plete­ly dis­ap­pear any time soon, there are some steps Autis­tic peo­ple can take to min­i­mize the risk of becom­ing inspi­ra­tion porn and reduce harm if it hap­pens, any­way. It is also imper­a­tive that the neu­ro­di­ver­si­ty-ori­ent­ed Autis­tic com­mu­ni­ty learn to sep­a­rate the sto­ry from its subject.

The media atten­tion to Haley Moss’ admis­sion to the Flori­da Bar, and the sto­ry ulti­mate­ly going viral, is just the lat­est, and one of the most promi­nent, of many episodes of very real achieve­ment by Autis­tics or oth­ers with dis­abil­i­ties han­dled regret­tably by the media and pop­u­lar cul­ture. The usu­al pat­tern is that an Autis­tic adult does some­thing that is gen­uine­ly worth­while. Some­times, the activ­i­ty in ques­tion would be news­wor­thy even if per­formed by a neu­rotyp­i­cal. Some­times, it is only news­wor­thy because it is a ‘first’, a bar­ri­er bro­ken by a mem­ber of a minor­i­ty group. Some­times, it is not news­wor­thy, and its very cov­er­age is some­what patron­iz­ing. News out­lets, often start­ing with local ones, cov­er the activ­i­ty and the sub­ject of the sto­ry’s dis­abil­i­ty, but the cov­er­age is low-qual­i­ty. Actu­al achieve­ment is simul­ta­ne­ous­ly sen­sa­tion­al­ized, exag­ger­at­ed, and described in an incred­i­bly patron­iz­ing way. The sub­ject of the sto­ry is often quot­ed selec­tive­ly, with words that add dig­ni­ty and nuance cut out. The end result is some­one who has done some­thing gen­uine­ly chal­leng­ing and worth­while being cov­ered like a curios­i­ty, like a talk­ing dog. These sto­ries often go viral.

Vol­umes have been writ­ten on this issue. Many dif­fer­ent dis­abil­i­ty com­mu­ni­ties have tried hard to push back, and there have been some improve­ments. In recent years, a grow­ing num­ber of well-regard­ed media orga­ni­za­tions have put opin­ion pieces on dis­abil­i­ty in the hands of dis­abled writ­ers with excel­lent results. There are also a grow­ing num­ber of guides for jour­nal­ists cov­er­ing dis­abil­i­ty. Writ­ers, blog­gers, and jour­nal­ists who get these sto­ries right con­sis­tent­ly find that their rep­u­ta­tions pre­cede them, and dis­abil­i­ty com­mu­ni­ties trust and sup­port them more and more over time. Although the sit­u­a­tion is improv­ing, con­tact with the media remains risky for the dig­ni­ty of peo­ple with dis­abil­i­ties, espe­cial­ly when the sto­ry in ques­tion is one of achieve­ment and suc­cess. It remains impor­tant for Autis­tic peo­ple antic­i­pat­ing con­tact with the media to take basic steps to reduce the risk of end­ing up at the cen­ter of an inspi­ra­tion porn sto­ry and going viral and for the com­mu­ni­ty to avoid blam­ing the vic­tim when that does not work out.

Not all atten­tion or rep­re­sen­ta­tion is worth­while. The first step to pre­vent­ing an inspi­ra­tion porn inci­dent is to avoid, if at all pos­si­ble, becom­ing part of sto­ries that are not news­wor­thy and low­er-grade pub­li­ca­tions that may care more about going viral than pro­duc­ing real news. Some­times, the best thing to do is to turn down the inter­view, express sur­prise and con­fu­sion that the activ­i­ty in ques­tion may get press cov­er­age, and point out that it is com­mon, rou­tine, or unin­ter­est­ing. It is also impor­tant to con­sid­er the source. It is unsur­pris­ing that Forbes’ arti­cle on Haley Moss described the sig­nif­i­cance of her achieve­ment in much more nuanced, inter­est­ing, inter­sec­tion­al terms than USA Today’s. No pub­li­ca­tion is per­fect, but the ones that are more com­mit­ted to high jour­nal­is­tic stan­dards will get this right more of the time. 

The for­mat is also impor­tant. At least for those who are good with words, it may be eas­i­er to get one’s full human­i­ty across in a longer-form inter­view than a short quote that will be heav­i­ly con­tex­tu­al­ized, for bet­ter or worse, by a reporter who may or may not be informed about dis­abil­i­ty, by the sur­round­ing sto­ry. If an oppor­tu­ni­ty to speak with the media does seem worth pur­su­ing, it is impor­tant to plan ahead as much as pos­si­ble. Hav­ing a basic out­line, or even a script, of what one wants to say can make it eas­i­er to stay on-mes­sage. Con­sid­er words care­ful­ly, and try to think through every sen­tence as if it could be the only one that makes it into publication.

Of course, these tac­tics are not always suf­fi­cient to pre­vent inspi­ra­tion porn, and whether to coop­er­ate with a giv­en sto­ry is always a judge­ment call. Peo­ple who are look­ing for inspi­ra­tion porn will some­times find ways to read it into the most dig­ni­fied cov­er­age of a dis­abled per­son achiev­ing some­thing worth­while. Adding con­text on social media, speak­ing out about the prob­lems with low­er-qual­i­ty cov­er­age, enter­ing into dia­logue with peo­ple who want to dis­cuss the sto­ry, and oth­er­wise try­ing to get some mod­icum of con­trol of the nar­ra­tive, as Haley Moss has on Twit­ter in recent days, all help to reduce the harm and increase the odds that a sto­ry will change per­cep­tions. Ulti­mate­ly, there are parts of the process of media cov­er­age and a sto­ry’s flow through social media net­works that are out­side of the con­trol of its sub­jects, but Autis­tic adults can exer­cise some agency before and after con­tent is created.

The Autis­tic com­mu­ni­ty must remem­ber that get­ting caught up in these sto­ries is often some­thing that hap­pens to peo­ple with­out being inten­tion­al­ly orches­trat­ed by them. Although pro­fes­sion­al Autis­tics are a real prob­lem, albeit one dri­ven by the com­mu­ni­ty’s hor­rif­ic unem­ploy­ment rate, many or most peo­ple caught up in inspi­ra­tion porn sto­ries are vic­tims, rather than per­pe­tra­tors, of indig­ni­ties on them­selves and oth­er dis­abled peo­ple. The Autis­tic com­mu­ni­ty can be unfor­giv­ing to peo­ple who are per­ceived as imped­i­ments to a good nar­ra­tive. How­ev­er, it must rec­og­nize that the per­son at the cen­ter of the sto­ry is a human being who belongs in the com­mu­ni­ty, often regrets their role in the sto­ry, and is some­where between bare­ly cul­pa­ble and not at all cul­pa­ble in most cas­es, at worst hav­ing made a hand­ful of easy mis­takes. Doing some­thing worth­while, mak­ing a good faith effort toward qual­i­ty rep­re­sen­ta­tion, and get­ting bad cov­er­age despite one’s best efforts should not be grounds for exclu­sion, humil­i­a­tion, or harsh reproach. In all of these episodes, Autis­tic peo­ple must refrain from dri­ving away those who did good things only to have them cov­ered badly.

Disability Day of Mourning 2019

Dis­abil­i­ty Day of Mourn­ing is here again, and fil­i­cides con­tin­ue. Again, we remem­ber peo­ple we’ve lost and hope for a year when no names are added to the list. Again, we remem­ber the dead who may not have many out­side of the dis­abil­i­ty com­mu­ni­ty to look back on them fond­ly. Again, we reflect on the many good years they lost. Most of them were very young. Again, we con­sid­er what we, the liv­ing, lost by their deaths. The ones we lost were most­ly chil­dren who might have grown up to engage with the dis­abil­i­ty com­mu­ni­ty. Now, we will nev­er know them.

We, the liv­ing, also lose by fear, by stress, by the pres­sure these killings and oth­er man­i­fes­ta­tions of ableism put on us to con­stant­ly prove our full human­i­ty and jus­ti­fy the val­ue of our lives. Fil­i­cide, and the way in which apol­o­gists for it come out of the wood­work to jus­ti­fy it when it takes place, is, after all, just an extreme iter­a­tion of the back­ground ableism that exists in soci­ety every day. The shad­ow of these killings, the stig­ma placed on need­ing help or own­ing up to dis­abil­i­ty, being per­ceived as a bur­den, and poten­tial exclu­sion from every­thing from social belong­ing to ade­quate health­care dri­ve too many peo­ple with dis­abil­i­ties to con­stant­ly try to prove their util­i­ty in all aspects of their lives. Instead of stay­ing in the work­place, where that kind of think­ing may belong, many try to be con­stant­ly use­ful every­where, at all times, to the detri­ment of their health and rela­tion­ships. This pres­sure cuts across the lines of degree of sup­port needs, class, race, gen­der and gen­der iden­ti­ty, sex­u­al ori­en­ta­tion, and reli­gion to trou­ble much of the dis­abil­i­ty community.

It will only leave us, and fil­i­cides will only stop, when we rec­og­nize the intrin­sic val­ue of every human being and make our com­mu­ni­ties tru­ly inclu­sive. Only then will vul­ner­a­ble peo­ple con­sis­tent­ly have the kinds of rela­tion­ships that will lead some­one to step in if some­thing looks amiss with a care­giv­er and every oppor­tu­ni­ty to be heard and believed when they need to report abuse. We can help the most vul­ner­a­ble peo­ple resist this kind of sense­less vio­lence, but we have to care about them and pri­or­i­tize them in the way we only will when we val­ue their lives equal­ly with all oth­er human lives first. If we want fil­i­cide to stop, we have to decide once and for all that there is more to life than being con­ven­tion­al­ly useful.

Mutual Support

The word ‘neu­ro­di­ver­si­ty’ has come a long way. What start­ed as a fringe term has gone main­stream. What was a sig­ni­fi­er of rad­i­cal ideas has become a buzz­word. The word, and many of the con­cepts that sur­round it, are get­ting watered down by peo­ple who use it with­out mean­ing what it used to mean: a fierce, unyield­ing com­mit­ment to the idea that every­one gets cer­tain things: equal­i­ty under law, dig­ni­ty of risk, self-deter­mi­na­tion, and real oppor­tu­ni­ties to build a life worth liv­ing. It meant build­ing rich, diverse coali­tions with many dif­fer­ent peo­ple to meet our com­mu­ni­ty’s needs but nev­er rely­ing on any­one who won’t agree to our full human­i­ty as a basic ground rule of work­ing togeth­er. One of the upsides of our grow­ing vis­i­bil­i­ty is a con­stant flow of new peo­ple into the com­mu­ni­ty. With the def­i­n­i­tion of some of the words many of us used to state our col­lec­tive iden­ti­ty loos­en­ing, we need to talk more about the things at the heart of Autis­tic cul­ture and com­mu­ni­ty so that new peo­ple find out what it all means. One such con­cept, one we real­ly can’t afford to lose, is mutu­al support.

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What Tumblr Was

Cor­rec­tion: A quote from an arti­cle by Julia Bas­com was orig­i­nal­ly mis­atributed to non­sense­wake­supthe­brain­cellz, the Tum­blr user who quot­ed it.

Tum­blr, the quirky, con­tro­ver­sial, noto­ri­ous­ly unprof­itable social media plat­form, may final­ly dis­ap­pear. Ver­i­zon’s deci­sion to clear the site of adult con­tent has gone over bad­ly with users, in part because Tum­blr has always housed sig­nif­i­cant amounts of adult con­tent, in part because hap­haz­ard enforce­ment of the new rule has affect­ed SFW blogs. A sig­nif­i­cant num­ber of users have already decid­ed to leave. It is pos­si­ble, though by no means cer­tain, that Tum­blr could sur­vive with­out peo­ple who use Tum­blr as a source of adult con­tent, but many believe the depar­ture of fan­doms is a fatal blow to the social net­work. Users are back­ing up their con­tent and gath­er­ing oth­er con­tact infor­ma­tion for their friends, even if they intend to main­tain their accounts if pos­si­ble, because of wide­spread pre­dic­tions of Tum­blr’s demise.

Since Ver­i­zon announced the new rule, peo­ple who have used, loved, and hat­ed Tum­blr have been eulo­giz­ing it. In the com­men­tary on the social net­work, its past, and its like­ly-lim­it­ed future, autism comes up as a theme among crit­ics and mourn­ers alike. Some of the tweets are by peo­ple who have iden­ti­fied them­selves as Autistic:



A Twitter user self-described as 'Lilo the autistic queer (they/them)' with the handle @A_Silent_Child said "To everyone fleeing Tumblr: welcome to our humble abode. Would you like some tea? Cookies? Please, make yourself at home.' A user self-described as 'AutisticGamerChick' with the handle @ChickAutistic said "I moved from Tumblr to here. I don't know if that's an improvement." A user self-described as 'was @AsexualConnor' with the handle @AutisticConnors said "I'm mostly worried abt tumblr accidentally deleting my blog or tumblr itself going under after all this mess tbh". These statements were all tweeted on December 4th, 2018.

Twit­ter users who iden­ti­fy them­selves as Autis­tic dis­cuss the mass-pull­out 



Oth­ers are ableist and undig­ni­fied uses of autism as an insult:



A user self-described as 'Mike Schonewolf' with the handle @TheLoneMaverick tweeted "Tumblr really has become an autistic playpen." on December 4th, 2018.

Like Tum­blr mourn­ers, the social net­work’s detrac­tors asso­ciate it with autism






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Becoming Invisible

Note: this is much more per­son­al and con­fes­sion­al than the con­tent of this blog usu­al­ly is. Read on if you are okay with that. Oth­er­wise, check back later.

Some­times, I wor­ry that I might be becom­ing invis­i­ble. I moved back to the town where I grew up, to the state where half my fam­i­ly has been for four­teen or fif­teen gen­er­a­tions, and bought a lit­tle house. I dri­ve one of the big SUVs that are ubiq­ui­tous across the sun­belt. I take good care of it as best I can afford and change its oil in my dri­ve­way every 3,000 miles. I vote. I go to church. I do a lit­tle wood­work­ing. I have the same kind of block-head­ed mutt as many of my neigh­bors. I join things like com­mu­ni­ty bands. Indeed, if I was­n’t a bit unusu­al in terms of gen­der pre­sen­ta­tion, I might be con­sid­ered very old-fash­ioned. I’m no one’s men­tal image of an Autis­tic adult. I have crushed every stereo­type, blown the odds out of the water, and become con­cerned that big parts of who I am will sim­ply vanish.

Ask most peo­ple to pic­ture an Autis­tic adult and they will imag­ine some­one iso­lat­ed and unem­ployed, not some­one who can’t stop whin­ing about an I‑40 com­mute. They envi­sion some­one liv­ing with fam­i­ly or in some­what restric­tive sup­port­ed hous­ing rather than a first-time home­own­er try­ing to get new vent cov­ers before a pos­sum takes up res­i­dence in the crawl­space. Any num­ber of peo­ple I rou­tine­ly inter­act with now don’t know and don’t have occa­sion to find out. By any mea­sure, I’m well-inte­grat­ed, the best case sce­nario. Does this mean I will fade into the gen­er­al pop­u­la­tion and disappear?

Becom­ing, and help­ing oth­ers to become, free and inde­pen­dent was the goal of every­thing I have done up until this point. I fed my ado­les­cence and young adult­hood to the cause of self-deter­mi­na­tion. Now, I have those things for myself. No one is in a posi­tion to stop me from going as far as my abil­i­ties and work eth­ic will take me, and no one can pre­vent the occa­sion­al cheese­burg­er and beer scat­tered in among my most­ly respon­si­ble deci­sions. This is the kind of life that should be avail­able to every­one. It should not be an unusu­al­ly good out­come for Autis­tic adults.

Unfor­tu­nate­ly, it is. My days are filled with reminders that what I have is unchart­ed ter­ri­to­ry for many of my Autis­tic friends. Rarely does a week go by with­out a GoFundMe crop­ping up in my Face­book feed because a friend or acquain­tance needs mon­ey to cov­er an emer­gency, or, worse rou­tine liv­ing expens­es. Peo­ple I respect as much as much as any­one else in the world tell me about the indig­ni­ties of get­ting ben­e­fits, how they are shamed dur­ing the appli­ca­tion process even when they unequiv­o­cal­ly meet the cri­te­ria and need the help. It’s hard to put­ter around in my yard, cook a meal with expen­sive, fresh pro­duce, or trawl Craigslist for fun cars I might just be able to afford in a few more years with­out a sense of dis­so­nance and lin­ger­ing guilt.

I donate what I can, but the wider, neu­rotyp­i­cal soci­ety would con­sid­er my means fair­ly mod­est. When I am able to help, the anger I feel while I enter my cred­it card infor­ma­tion is vis­cer­al. I can feel mus­cle tens­ing and heart rate ris­ing as I add duct tape to a social safe­ty net that needs an over­haul. I lis­ten when I can, but my emo­tion­al resources have lim­its, too. Some­times, I want to spend my spare lim­it­ed time and mon­ey on light­heart­ed pur­suits. The ques­tion of how much fun it is okay for me to have while friends strug­gle to cov­er the neces­si­ties is one that defies an easy answer. I sus­pect I will grap­ple with it until such time as more of the Autis­tic com­mu­ni­ty has a dig­ni­fied lifestyle or until the end of my life, whichev­er comes first.

I social­ize more with neu­rotyp­i­cals than in the past because the life I have now brings me into con­tact with them. I enjoy these new friends, but these rela­tion­ships present their own prob­lems. My dis­abil­i­ty rarely comes up in con­ver­sa­tion. Unless some­one has occa­sion to Google me, new friends may not find out about an impor­tant piece of my back­ground and large swathes of my social life. Even peo­ple who know I’m Autis­tic, or would be com­plete­ly sup­port­ive if they did, are most­ly not in a posi­tion to under­stand my oth­er world. Sub­ject mat­ter that is enough a part of dai­ly life to come up in casu­al con­ver­sa­tion among my Autis­tic friends, with their high pover­ty rate, might be con­sid­ered too sad or dis­turb­ing to men­tion around neu­rotyp­i­cal ones.

I don’t know what to do about any of this except try to be vis­i­ble, give what I can, keep work­ing toward a world where few­er of us live in pover­ty, and engage in con­ver­sa­tion about the oblig­a­tion of those of us who are doing alright to every­one else. The size of that con­ver­sa­tion will cer­tain­ly grow as access to jobs and edu­ca­tion con­tin­ue to increase. If we are suf­fi­cient­ly suc­cess­ful, what I have will be more nor­mal in my life­time. These ques­tions will large­ly expire. Until then, I will do my best to put down roots with­out becom­ing invis­i­ble, to be both Autis­tic and a val­ued part of the cir­cles I run in now. I will think about how I can use what I own to dis­play both with pride. I will set finan­cial goals for giv­ing as well as things like retire­ment. I will keep in touch with oth­ers ask­ing in the same ques­tions in hopes that we can find some liv­able answers, if only slow­ly, in living.